I forget how much I like my friends.
I spend much of my time in solitude: writing, in my car listening to NPR, walking with my dogs. And when I'm not alone, I'm with my family.
I'm not a total hermit. There's plenty of time in the day with people around: volunteering at school, carpool, play dates. And I cherish Thursdays with my writing workshop where I am amongst a group of people whose interests are the same as my own - HEAVEN. But, when the day is done: the dinner dishes cleaned, the next day's lunches made, the kids asleep, what I most likely haven't managed to do is connect with my friends. Days, weeks, even months go by without talking to people I love.
Someone once said, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." I think it just makes you self-involved.
This is not an epiphany. I just happen to be feeling it this morning after a particularly fun night with old friends that left me inebriated, suffering from insomnia, and emotional.
The thing about not getting out is that you forget there is a whole world out there full of interesting people who you like and who like you, too. It seems I'm not alone in this. That many of us, in our child-rearing years, between working and family responsibilities, suffer from the same inability to escape our fish bowls.
I wish I had an answer for this. We all talked last night about having once-a-month rotating dinner parties. (Of course, I suggested progressive parties, with grain alcohol, the likes of which I attended in college, but seeing how well I managed on just white wine, I think I'll reconsider).
I wish I could tell you (as I'm telling myself right now), that I'm going to be better about making plans with friends, better about calling them and my family, better about venturing outside of my bubble. BETTER ABOUT BLOGGING.
Right this moment, I WILL improve at all of those things.
Tomorrow, once this hangover has subsided and my emotions are once again pushed down beneath the usual daily hustle, who knows?
I'm off to fix myself a Bloody Mary and think about it.
What do you do to stay connected with friends?